Cheers to Thursday night and the longest week of all of our lives!! I can’t even put into words how crazy, overwhelming and stressful this past week has been. We went from having a normal life, living our lives ….. to literally seeing everything including stores, gyms, and salons shut down. And to top it all off..schools are closed & we are homeschooling our kids (more on that later!) My heart hurts for so many who are affected by businesses being shut down for an unknown amount of time.
Read MoreShopBop Spring Sale: The best of the best!
Sunnies || Top || Jeans || GG Sneakers… ALL ON SALE!
One of my all time favorite retailers, ShopBop, is having their spring sale and I’m so here for it! This is a buy more, save more event and I love it because many of my closet staples have come from the Shop Bop Sales! These items certainly aren’t budget items, but they are items you will have for years (for example, I’ve had my Madewell jeans for 3 years, my sunglasses for 3 years). Most of these items rarely go on sale and this is a great time to add investment pieces into your closet before spring starts!
I’m sharing below in some photos, as well as my picks of some of the items that I have and love myself (and some that are on my wish list!).
Seen below…Free People dress (pink) and black…..Madewell tee here and here….hunter rain boots, denim dress by free people, Rolling stone graphic tee, AG jeans and shorts, Z supply overalls and T shirt, Madewell denim jacket and Shutz sandals!
Scroll down past my photos for my Picks!
Again, these items RARELY go on sale and some will sell out so do not hesitate if you have your eye on something (ie. Tory Burch items, Golden Gooses, etc!).
Happy Shopping friends!
xo
Alex
The 4th Trimester Series #1: Fashion after the bump
We did it.
The fourth trimester is finally o.v.e.r.
Parts of me are a little sad because, hello, newborns.
BUT most of me is all like..BYE FELECIA!!! Bye to nursing every hour, pads, granny underwear, c-section incisions, waking up every 2 hours at night, checking on your newborn every 5 seconds to make sure they are still breathing….ok, ok. You get the point. haha. But in all seriousness, I can honestly say the past 12 weeks have flown by, comparitively speaking to my other two children. I’ve really enjoyed and soaked this stage up as much as I can!
Now that I’ve finished my third fourth trimester, I’ll be hitting on a few different areas and sharing my thoughts, advice, and suggestions ((for what they’re worth ha)). Todays topic is fashion after the bump. This may seem silly to someone who has never had a baby, but let me tell you that the struggle is so real when you get home with that baby and you don’t necessarily want to wear maternity clothes (sorry, not sorry but I didn’t.) but you want to be comfy and nothing fits from your pre-pregnancy closet. Also, you will never know the despair (and tears lol) when you actually have to go into public, or even worse, work, when nothing fits. Also, husbands should probably leave the premise at about this time because they will feel the wrath when you’re throwing clothes all over your closet screaming about how fat you are haha.((clearly all their fault!!))
I honestly think that my third pregnancy was most enjoyable for a number of reasons- and one of the reasons being that I knew how to dress myself throughout the pregnancy. Instead of feeling as big as a house 24-7, I tried to dress in outfits that worked for me, my body type and my bump and it actually made me feel confident, pretty & attractive. This goes a long way!!
Also, disclaimer in that I definitely had days where I felt swollen, large & in charge and just downright BIG. But 75% of the time I felt pretty good. I think dressing postpartum is the same & I totally feel like this time around I nailed it with what to wear to make me feel confident and “work my best angles” so to say over the last 12 weeks. Again, I have my days! And by no means am I satisfied or happy with how I look…But in general, I’ve felt pretty good regardless of my size or lack of weight loss.
The biggest tip I can give WHILE you are pregnant is when you are buying clothes for pregnancy, think about the “after the bump” stage (which can last for much longer than you think) because the clothes that you may be buying yourself at 4 or 5 months pregnant will be PERFECT for 2, 3, 4, 5 and even 6 months postpartum. So, while I think its important to invest in some key maternity pieces (see my post here on my maternity must haves) I do think sizing up and buying pregnancy friendly clothing helps your postpartum fashion game soooo much.
So, here we go. My Fourth Trimester Fashion must haves!
HANDS down what I wore most the first 6 weeks postpartum was the Zella live in legging. Here are the crops (perf for spring/summer) and here’s the full length. Suck you in, thick, and go with anything. Last FOREVER.
I’ m still 1-2 jean sizes larger than what I was pre-pregnancy so i had to invest in at least one pair of jeans. These babies suck you in, are high waisted and SO COMFY. Also, can’t beat the price especailly if you’re only wearing them temporarily.
This Free People Henley I wore at the back end of my pregnancy and transitioned well into postypartum. Nursing friendly and also can be worn next fall/winter front tucked or tied! WIN!
I have lived in this striped tee from AE. Comfy and so cheap, and flowy enough to hide the stomach area!
Another transitional free people top I love! Great neutral color, bottons, soft.
The align has to be the best legging ever created. So soft, good quality, high rise. Worth every penny to get a staple black pair to wear with everything. A little lighter than the zella. Here is the regular rise version ( which is still high rise, just not super high rise)
I’ve worn this turtleneck sweatshirt a ton with leggings. Makes you feel somewhat put together and the oversize look is comfy and forgiving, but still looks trendy. Under $20.
I live in these nursing bras the first 2-3 weeks after delivery, and at night for months! So comfy.
These were the only jeans I could get on my body 1 week postpartum! Equipped with a elastic in the waist, these made wearing jeans bearable one week post delivery!
Love this Z Supply top, cute & hides your PP tummy, and slits on the side which make it super easy to nurse. Even better is wearing these nursing tanks undeneath! SO EASY,
Graphic tees were my jam this postpartum with cardigans layered over-this makes it easier for nursing especially when you’re just chilin at home.
Peplum tee thats flowy on the bottom-on sale for under $25. Perfect if you’re having a baby this spring/summer!
Wrap cardigan -perfect for pregnancy and postpartum
These t shirts have good length and are V-neck which is ideal for nursing.
My love for cardigans runs deep. Love this one, and of course barefoot dreams! Both this boxier one & other style is on sale!! RUN.
SPANX. Helping women feel put together!! These were great for me on date night 3 weeks postpartum (wore in my pre-preggo size(
This tunic is great for postpartum (and even not…great beach cover up!!). So pretty!
Catalina free people top. Soft, generous length, V neck and on sale. Insert into cart!!
the belly bandit. Buy it now if you’re pregnant!! Life saver.
The January tee by free people is another great investment for postpartum and pregnancy!
Love this dress for breastfeeding & bump. Flowy, stripes, summery AND hello..the price!!
Also, I have literally LIVED in the BP side slit tees. They have been sold out in forever! but I will def let you guys know if they come back in stock. They are the best basic long sleeve tees, great with leggings or jeans, come in stripes and solids, are around $20, are a generous fit, and have the side slit (but not too high) for nursing! I’m hoping they bring them back soon.
Lastly, invest in a huge, comfy pair of sweatpants for that 1st week or two postpartum. Ha!
Hope this helped you all! Have an awesome thursday! xo
Alex
3 weeks Postpartum Thoughts & My #1 PP Must Have
Happy Thursday everyone!
Hope you all are having a good week and enjoyed the warm up we had at the beginning of the week! It def gave me spring fever 🌸 🌺 ☀️ It also made me totally want to book a getaway ASAP!! 🏝 LOL
Hopping on to give a lil update on 3 weeks postpartum and some of my Postpartum must haves...
3 weeks postpartum
I remember the days going by so slowly postpartum with both of my first two kids, but I feel like this time it’s flying by. Maybe because I have two other guys to look after? I’m not sure but it sure is going by fast.
The newborn honeymoon phase is clearly over at this point and it’s GAME ON. I know sooo many people who are like “newborns are so easy”. I think they may be on some sort of drugs or .. they had a super easy baby. I prefer toddler phase SO SO much more. Probably because 99% of night waking is my responsibility ((nursing))so home girl is tired AF. So let’s get to it...
Sammy
Our big guy loves cuddles, milk, and being warm. Tolerates tummy time better than my other two ever did, and likes the bottle definitely less than the others. Hates to be swaddled (wants his arms free) and is the only one of my kids who actually likes to baby wear! All in all, he’s growing, healthy and we coulden’t be more blessed. truly. ((even with the lack of sleep lol))
SLEEP
Sleep was actually going okay. At first I was getting 2-3 hour stretches at night. Bedtime is all over the show ((which is normal I guess)) and the last week was pretty rough. There were 2-3 nights where he was up 11 pm-1:30 am and then up every 90 min after- which is brutal considering my other kids are up at 6:30/7 am. Last night I resigned to the fact that I needed to go to bed when my older two hit the sack around 8 pm and that’s what I did. So I was able to get two 3 hour stretches of sleep and then once we hit 2 am he was up every hour or 90 mins. I was so happy he wasn’t up for the happy hour at 11 pm!
How am I managing it? Some days are better than others. Most days I’m okay... but tbh yesterday I felt completely defeated.
Like...I’m never going to sleep again or get anything done ever again??!!. Before I had Sammy, I was usually up before 6 am to get myself ready, work out, emails, work on stuff for our business, blog, etc. Now that’s clearly not going to happen and it’s driving me crazy. It was my “time” to be productive and going to bed at 8 or 9 pm also means I get ... nothing done at night. Ugh.
I’m not much of napper but I have forced myself to when I have help. I also remind myself 55 times a night on how fast this will go, and how my little guy is so used to being with me 24-7 and that he needs me. His mama ❤️.
Also, caffeine helps. Lol. A lot. Gimme allll of the spark.
Breastfeeding
All of the pains of the first couple of weeks have subsided including sore nipples, massive engorgement, super leaky boobs, etc. and we’ve settled into a pretty good routine.
Sammy only has taken the bottle 2 or 3 times; he’s not a huge fan which is okay for me now anyway because I’m with him so much and not working atm other than doing some things remotely at home and a meeting or two every week that I need to head in to the office for.
He’s gaining weight really well and I’m so grateful for my body and ability to nurse him. I’m definitely going to write up a breastfeeding post to share with y’all including tips, things I wish I would have known, and my favorite nursing friendly clothing!!
Body
I did a big post on this last week. In the past week, I’ve started to walk a little bit weather permitting. My incision feels better and better and no signs of any issues there.
Also ...true story ....after my first walk my abs were sore! Haha! I don’t force the walking though- if the weather is crappy (like today) I just roll with it!
I’m not going to lie that I don’t feel a little frustrated - I weighed myself yesterday for the first time in a week and I haven’t lost a single ounce. So, I’m still up about 18-30 lbs.
On top of that I ((stupidly)) tried on a pair of my normal size jeans and couldn’t get them over my thighs. On the same day that I weighed myself #ROOKIEMISTAKE lol.
Literally cried for the first time since having the baby. Not sure why I decided to do both of those things in one day 🤦🏼♀️Anyway, I have soooo much work to go to get back where I was and I’m definitely feeling down about that.
It’s actually FUNNY to me typing that. I mean, I did just birth a 8 lb human 3 weeks ago….I guess patience and grace is an area that I need to work on lol. Also I’m not even walking consistently so I’m not sure why i think my body should be back to the way it is. I guess its just been a reality check and thats been a tough pill for me to swallow about the work and grind I’m gonna have to put in starting at 6 or 7 weeks PP. I’m mentally gearing up for it though and ready for the challenge.
I’m definitely going to do a “body image” post sometime soon because its something I’m really passionate about and I have sooo many thoughts about the “body positivity” movement!
Brothers
The boys have adjusted really well ((so far)) actually. Max is definitely more interested in his baby brother and is pretty helpful!! but Seb loves him as well. Managing all three at one time on my own is a bit of a circus. I resort to a little more TV time than I would normally especially because I have to nurse so much ... and baby wearing 🤷🏼♀️when I have to. Newborns DO sleep a lot which helps, and my boys are in school (Seb twice a week, Max 4 times) so the mornings are easier. Early afternoons are okay because both older boys nap so its pretty much the 3-6 pm time slot and I mostly have help for now.
Tuesday night I was on my own with all three boys for bedtime. Luckily the baby napped the hour leading into their bedtime so all was good 🙌🏼I’m looking forward to a month or so from now where I can start to have a routine for the baby (or at least a ball park scheduled bedtime) and it will give us a little more structure.
Postpartum Must- haves
I thought I’d share a few things that have been crucial to the bane of my existence for the past 3 weeks! These are great for postpartum…but also just COZY and COMFY wear for those on the lookout!!
-My #1 PP Item- The belly bandit. I wear this thing 24-7. Helps me keep my core stable, gives me support, and helps with reducing size of my tummy post baby. Cannot recommend this enough!!!
-Barefoot dreams cardigan. Wearing a sweater at times can be cumbersome when you nurse 10 times a day lol! these are soo warm and easy to wear.
-Barefoot socks….wore around house or out and about with boots!
-I wear these C-panties day and night to help protect my incision! A must for C Section mamas.
-Cannot live without my boppy for breastfeeding.
-I wear joggers around the house alllll day. Love these joggers from Loft. Honestly they are like a soft blanket!
-My Dylan joggers from Anthro are on mega sale. Great if you’re pregnant, not pregnant or PP. Come in tons of colors!
-When I actually have to look presentable I wear the Align legging from lulu (high waisted and suck it all in) or the Zella legging!!
-Can’t say enough about these Wit and Wisdom jeans. Elastic on jeans? yesssssss.
-BP t shirts- easy to nurse in and great for layering. ( i sized up for PP life) I have these in solid and striped. Wearin them all day everyday. Also. $10. Add to cart.
-The january tee is an easy postpartum option made by Free People!
Have a great day
xo alex
Change, 38 weeks Pregnant & Saturday Spotlight
38 weeks Pregnant….Change….& Saturday Spotlight
Change. The only thing that is constant in life.
I just dropped the boys off at the airport and I was literally dying inside. All thats been on my mind the last few days is how different everything is going to be when they get back. I’ve been trying to soak in my mornings with Seb while Max is at school, family dinners and breakfasts…ahhhh. Not going to lie, pretty much in tears when I went to the car. Knowing the changes ahead of us, that nothing will be the same, how did this all go so fast??! I know they’re going to have a blast (my oldest was up at 5:20 am ready to go LOL) but its never easy in these moments knowing tons of changes are coming your way. I’m so excited; yet scared, anxious, sad, so many emotions. Here’s to our new normal of a family of 5!
That’s not to say a small part of me is basking in the fact that In the next few days I don’t need to bend over with my huge bump 83939 times a day to change diapers…or pick up toys, put toys together lol, put shoes, coats, gloves, on/take off my toddler, etc. haha.
Or the fact that I’m on no timeline. WHAT? I don’t have to be home at a certain time for the kids or bring them everywhere. So foreign to me.
But still….miss them so much already.
So…for now I’m going to distract myself with a fun post about my 10 faves of the week!
Saturday Spotlight
things I’m loving right now….
DYSON BLOWDRYER. Um yes. Yall. This is life changing. I have super thick hair and I swear I put off my whole hair washing process till the last possible moment cause it takes forrrrever. And also #momlife and I’m slightly lazy abt it haha. I got the dyson blowdryer for Christmas (just the basic one) and honestly I can’t say enough about it. I know its a huge investment…but if you have thick hair and are super busy (who isn’t??!!) you need this. Also, if you have to wash your hair a lot (like every day), it is a must have. This blowdryer has made my hair way softer than my old dryer, my blowout lasts longer and honestly it is SO quiet and dries my hair in like 5 minutes (and I have sooo much hair).
2. I love this Gleaming Heart Roadtrip sweater for Valentines Day and its almost 50% on the rack!
3. This Topshop Belted dress has been on my wishlist for like…weeks now and its under $50
4. This Abercrombie Long Turtleneck sweater is 50% and comes in a ton of colors…
5. This purple pom beanie from Abercombie is so stinking cute and unique and the price is SO good.
6. I’m a sucker for stripes and need to snag a few of these AERIE striped tees for postpartum and layering.
7. Isle of Paradise Self Tanner: I have super fair skin and love to have color. I was never good at finding a good self tanner. Over the last year I’ve liked the Josie Maran Argan Gold but it does get on your clothes/sheets after application if you go to bed after and I wish it lasted longer. Enter Isle of Paradise tanning water (or the drops I heard are really good). I AM OBSESSED. It doesn’t leave any residue on my sheets after application, its SUPER Dark, lasts for 3-5 days, doesn’t come off on my clothes and it has a slight smell but honestly the next day I can’t even smell it. It took me one application to figure out how to use it and make sure it was even. All of my posts lately I’ve had it on. Its a MUST. FYI I use Dark.
8. The double up Ardell lashes are my new fave- add soooo much volume!
9. This Jcrew factory pom hat is GOALS. Can you tell I love my winter hats? Also comes in black/pink!!
10. I’m on the hunt for nursing friendly clothes and this ruffle trim wrap top from Jcrew factory is perfect…and feminine. I also love their tissue turtlenecks. Save 50% off on 2 or more items, 60% off on 3 or more items, and 70% off 4 or more items from clearance!! YAS.
Hope you all have an amazing weekend.
XO
Alex
Fashion Friday: Summer Vaca Packing List
Happy Friday friends! I hope you have all had a great week. The week started off AWESOME when I found out my laptop was not dead after spilling Advocare Spark on it..! let's just say the computer gods looked after me BIG TIME.
We have spent the last couple of days in florida enjoying some family time. My MIL is here so its been nice to have a little getaway while she's here. Its hard for us to unplug when we are at home! A majority of our time has been spent at the beach, in the pool, or at the local playground! Chill & low key. We are headed to Orlando for a few nights before we head home and I'm looking forward to some shopping and having a little bit more around us to do :P
I thought I would share a few items that were made it into my suitcase for the trip down here as I am sure so many of you are hitting the roads (or the air!) for a trip over the summer and are looking for some new vacay style! Obviously I packed more than this (haha I'm a total overpacker) but some of my MVPs that didn't make this list were my birkenstocks, some comfy nike's, and this fun one piece swimsuit from amazon.
1. These Z Supply tanks are super comfy, and a great basic to travel with. They are also currently 50% off on shopbop! Runs TTS.
2. I got this bikini last minute at target..when I was supposed to be getting an ipad case!! Haha! I coulden't resist the gold/white combo!
3. We are so active and on the go that its important I pack a good pair of light athleisure shorts to wear on the go with the kids in hot weather. These lululemon shorts are perfect and are a fun coral color.
4. The Shoreline converse are a little bit unique with the slipon and ruching in the back of the shoe. Comfy and versatile.
5. Believe it or not, I actually got these Paige denim shorts at TJ Maxx for $40! Denim is a must on the packing list and these don't disappoint. I would def size down in these.
6. This madewell striped tank is a staple. Runs TTS.
7. I am OBSESSED with these Siwy Mickey Mouse shorts. I love the high waist and the fun graphics. These are also on major sale, so if you're a disney lover....don't pass these up! Runs TTS. As seen in my photo above.
8. I wore a plain Disney graphic tee with the Mickey shorts, but I like this fun cropped tank to wear with it in the hot temps!
9. I recently purchased this Becca floral bikini. I really like the colors and the ruffles add a touch of femininity. Runs TTS,
10. Some of you saw my fun travel outfit- these Camo overalls from asos! Run TTS.
11. Last but not least, this Ruffle one piece is sooo cute and flattering! Also, its 40% off. Runs TTS.
Hope you all have an awesome Memorial Day weekend with Family and friends!
xo
Alex