Happy New Year!! Hope you all had an awesome and safe night whether you stayed in or went out! We decided to just chill this year (last year we didn’t do anything either because the whole household was sick! yikes). It is tough finding babysitters on NYE and we figured we would just head out Saturday night instead!
I’ve never been one for “resolutions” per say, because a lot of times they revolve around health and fitness.. and obviously that is a huge priority in my life! So I don’t really make fitness based resolutions because it is already so important to me. Last year was the first year I really sat down and decided to make some goals for myself at the start of the new year and really took a look at some of my weaknesses and things I wanted to improve internally.
I’m a really goal oriented person, so I feel like I’m constantly making lists and striving for things inside my head. But I actually wrote about ((some of)) what I wanted to accomplish on a personal level on the blog last year and I definitely feel like I lived up to it which I’m proud of.
I have a few goals/resolutions for this upcoming year. I think with having our last baby there are things I want to change about the postpartum period/4th trimester now that this is my third time around.
Wiser after the fact, amirite??!
Although I am trying to be completely REALISTIC because its so easy to say after the fact “I should have done this…or I should have been more patient…I should have just soaked it all in…” blah blah. Because I am pretty sure I forgot how freaking sleep deprived, overwhelmed and exhausted I was. Regardless, I am going to do my darndness to do the following:
As hard as things are going to get transitioning to 3 kids (a 4 year old, 2 year old, and newborn) I am going to STRIVE EVERYDAY to have the right mindset. This meaning:
When it comes time to do something (especially regarding my children) whether its changing my 3748th diaper that day, nursing for the 5th time overnight, taming my 2 year olds tantrum…my thought process will be not “I HAVE to go nurse the baby again” even tho I am tired AF and just want to be left alone…will be “I GET to go nurse my baby.” If I can do this 80% of the time, I guarantee my mood and everyone elses will be a lot better. See more on thought process of this below.
Secondly, on mindset. If one shitty thing happens in the day…it won’t be “well I’m having a bad day.” All it is …is a BAD MOMENT. A fireman doesn’t drop his hose in a crucial moment and then just walk away because he made a mistake. A policeman doesn’t stay on the ground and pout when chasing a felon if he’s tripped.. He gets on with it and makes the next 5 minutes count! Same with us. Not a bad day, JUST A bad moment.
Patience for my kids and husband. Patience as we transition. Patience on a routine. Patience on a new normal. Patience on working towards feeling confident and comfortable in my body.
I say this with tongue in cheek because this might be the hardest one of all of these. I am so goal oriented, especially my fitness and I can already feel myself itching to get into a routine, be the “perfect mom” and “have it all together” and working out with great intensity and I haven’t even had the baby yet!! LOL! I am going to vow to have complete patience in the postpartum recovery process, regardless of what my body looks like. Soak in ((most)) moments. Take my time. Not stress about being perfectly fit or looking great every day.
Give grace wherever is needed.
Work within what God will give me.
Because this last baby’s first year is gonna fly. And I’ve got the rest of time to be fit. Like, my whole life!!
If you’re a mom, you’re probably looking at those two things…thinking yeah, right. This will last about a day. And maybe it will.
Maybe I’m completely naive.
Because I’m pretty sure my life is going to be chaotic and a crazy shit show for a good while! But I will wake up every day with those two purposes to strive towards. Why? Well, it makes me a better person. a better mom, a better wife. Even if I do it half the time.
I know a lot of people hate on social media …and sure there are a lot of negatives. FOMO, bullying, haters,….but there are so many amazing communities though social media that bring people together for happy moments, moments in need, and moments of tragedy. I can for 100% vouch that my perspective on LIFE has changed because of social media.
For example, I follow a beautiful expectant mother (fellow blogger). I don’t know her. Probably never will. She has a 4 year old son and is about to have a baby girl. About 4 months ago she lost her 18 month old son unexpectedly Went to bed and never woke up.
I think about her every. single. day.
How life can change in an instant.
Life is so short and we all have moments where we want to lose it, and cry, and run away from responsibilities. But I’m grateful everyday to serve and HAVE those responsibilities regardless of how hard its gonna be.
I have a few other goals for myself, with our business, with my blog, and even fitness wise. But those seem so trivial compared to these two that I won’t even get into them. But I’ll for sure be writing them down so I keep myself accountable!
Do you guys have any resolutions that you want to follow through with??!
Hello, 2019. Nice to meet you. Looking forward to spending the year with you.